I’m KRISTA MARCHAND
I’ll be your Coach for today, k?
Helping You Find & Forge Your Own Path – by Getting Out of Your Own Way. (An official note on your genius.)
Yep. I said it.
Because here is the thing:
You deserve to be present in your life – and LOVE that life. But right now? There is something stopping you.
But wait. IF what is stopping you from getting exactly what you want is ACTUALLY stopping you?Â
It would be a universal truth.
A Universal Truth!
That means that it would be true for everyone —Â Stopping EVERYONE.
And guess what?
Someone else didn’t even consider that what is getting in your way would ever get in theirs.
So let’s kick all this stuff you’ve got holding you back to the curb.
Yes?
Unlock Your Full Potential MOM.
We’re gonna do this in 5 steps.
And you need to follow each to a T.
Ready?
First, I’m going to ask you to take a quick but powerful deep dive into your own body – it’s going to take about 6 minutes mom.
Then, I’m going to coach you through four ways of mapping out the thoughts that came up from your ninja deep-dive.
Cool?
Let’s go..
#1
STOP.
You are so disconnected from your body. (We all are, don’t worry.)
But here’s what is cool: your feelings about things are actually CREATED in your body. They become peptides – actual physical things that float around and get lodged in your body somewhere.
It’s not all in your mind. Your feelings are physically IN your body.
And how can you know how you feel (about your life, your body, your contribution, your goals) if you are incredibly disconnected from your body?
Sit in a chair with your head free and your feet comfortably spread side to side and close your eyes. Breathe. Let anything come (any peptides that escape from your tight/stressed muscles) that comes.
Breathe into the base of your tailbone - just your tailbone - let everything else relax. Send it some energy so that you can receive it's energy back. Move it around a bit as you breathe into it to see if there's anything tucked away that needs to escape.
Breathe into your pelvis. Feel your sits bones expand and contract. Breathe into your private stuff.. Move it around - where you pee, your vagina, your pelvic floor. Breathe in some energy and see what is reflected.
Breathe into your belly - let it go as you breathe in and expand it like a balloon. What is hiding in there mom?
Breathe into your chest. Breathe right into the space between each of your ribs. Feel the breath massage away the tension. And listen. Your heart is speaking to you now mom. Move just your rib cage from side to side. In slow circles. And listen.
Breathe into your throat. Shift your head up and back, from side to side, unlocking all the secrets you've been too afraid to say. For one delicious and safe moment - set them free.
Breathe OUT of your forehead. Send all that energy out into the universe through the very top and front of your body. Scrunch up your face, open your face, and send out that energy. How does your body want to connect to the universe? What colour is that energy?
Write that down mom. Whatever you remember.
NEXT:
Decide
2.
Can the Judgement
3.
Get Over Yourself
4.
Take Action
5.
2. Decide.
There are a few major categories of ‘life things’ that you want to take care of mom. To try to find equality within.
What’s calling to you the most right now?
Family. Career. Relationships. Spirituality. Health. Money. Adventure.
When you STOPPED. Where was the emotion held the most?
This is the area you have to cover first ma. Otherwise you’ll always be fighting against it to achieve anything else you want.
Tailbone.
Financial stress momma. Make a decision today to step into reality and come to terms with money. Money is energy. And like anything – if what you are currently doing isn’t working – stop trying to do it harder and start following your true path.
Lower back and hips.
Relationship stress and stress about sex. We can easily get caught up in pleasing others and not recognizing the things we want and need. You have one beautiful life mom – acknowledge who and what is serving you and empowering you, and what is not.
Belly and mid back.
Your personal power mom – and your self-will. As our bellies grow and stretch to accommodate babies, the ability to embrace our strength can widen and stretch too. Recognize momma.. if you aren’t in control of your world – who is?
Chest and upper back.
Love and relationship stress ma. Look to identify how your relationships define you – how have they molded you? Is your love setting you free or holding you down? What are you compromising and are you ok with it?
Neck, throat, and shoulders.
Communication. What are the things you are unwilling to say? Unwilling to admit? What is it doing to you.. You can choose to be authentic at any point in your life – but you have to be aware that it is a choice.
Face, head, and upper neck.
There’s no clarity or creativity – you feel mentally congested. While it seems like you couldn’t possibly DO anything else your brain is so cluttered – this is the time to plan. Planning plucks all the ideas and fears out of thin air and allows you to make sense of it all.
3. Can the Judgement.
You’re desperate to love your body – but you can’t stand the woman who practices self-care everyday.
You’re desperate to have a different career – but you’re jealous and mean towards the woman who already has it.
You’re desperate to find love – but you put-down the woman who has put herself out there and found someone who loves her for her.
You’re desperate to be a better mom – but you shun the moms you actually want to learn from.
The fit woman is too selfish. The career woman is too lucky. The lover is too needy. The mom is too type A.
You will NEVER actually become something you judge negatively.
No matter which stage we are at – there is always a next-level to go. Always someone a head of you.
Admit where you are at, embrace it, acknowledge that the other woman had her journey too… and then:
4. Get Over Yourself.
Believe me. I was just as pissed as you are right now when someone told me the exact same thing…
I thought, “Well, she just doesn’t know my situation.” And then she explained my situation right back to me almost memory to memory – except it was her story and her experience, not mine. And now she was brilliant, successful, happy, and flowing.
“Get over your %^$&ing self,” she repeated.
And it could take you two years to do it – like it took me. Or you can just do it now.
No, life isn’t perfect. Yes, things are hard. But you can choose to get over all your, “buts”, your “you don’t understands”, your “I’m so unique no one will ever know what I’m a going throughs”, and just make a decision that it doesn’t matter.
For everything there is a cause and effect, right? You are either creating the cause or you are agreeing to the effect.
If you are not creating – what are you agreeing to?
Who’s rules are you living by, ma?
And.. when will you simply get over it and just do what needs to be done?
“The solution to low self-esteem is to get over yourself and get a higher purpose.”
“Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it’s always your choice.”
“One cannot control the actions of others, but we are responsible for what we do. People say things such as, “I can’t do this,” “it is not really me,” “this makes me uncomfortable,” etc. People, simply put, opt out of playing the game or doing so in a way that will make them successful. So get over yourself, and do what you need to do – and what, by the way, others around you are doing, to become more powerful.”
5. Take Action
You've stopped and listened
You've decided what to prioritize
You've canned the judgements and got over yourself..
It’s time you do something about it.
No – you don’t need to read another blog, wait until next Tuesday, ask your mom/partner/boss, do it after the kids are asleep, or wait until you “look” perfect.
You need to do it right now. You need to find a mentor or a program or an ass-kicker to get you finally on track to DOING what it is you’ve always said you would.
Don’t Wait Any Longer to
Start Creating Your Own Rules!
The possibilities are literally endless.
Start here: what do you love so much you would do it for free? What would you do for the rest of time? Does it change?
What is your biggest hurdle to get what you want?
Where your passion meets your hurdles – this is where you find the skills you need.
For example – if you are dedicated to being the best mom you can, and you want energy, health, vitality, and the ability to raise a healthy household and your biggest problem is not knowing where to start – then the skills you need are:
- How do I assess and determine my health and fitness levels so I have a plan of what I need to do?
- How do I begin an exercise routine?
- How does food effect my body and how do I learn to prepare food and meals for that?
- How do I develop the mindset to prepare me for the ups and downs of learning a new lifestyle?
For example – if you want to start a home-business because you NEED to explore your creativity and intellect, then find out what you love and what your priorities are as we’ve already gone over – and ask the real questions:
- What do I need and WANT to learn?
- How committed am I to seeing my dream come true?
- Am I willing to step out of my comfort zone, press on when I don’t understand something, and invest in myself?
Then find a mentor. A coach. Someone to guide you. Get out of your own way – you DON’T have all the answers yet. If you did, you’d already be where you want to be.
Stop.
Decide.
Quit judging.
Get over yourself (yes, you CAN do it).
And let someone guide you step-by-step to fulfill your genius.
Quite frankly – it’s ridiculous you’ve waited this long.
I, personally, am THIRSTY for your particular genius.Â
Go get’em mom.
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Be inspired and go do YOU mom!
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